Sharing Station on Time Management, by Regina Wahlstrom
What are the Essential, the Necessary and the Nice to Do Things that we need to fit into the hours of our days and weeks?
See link below for the time management calendar Regina shared in her station
http://ce.byu.edu/cw/womensconference/archive/2011/sharing_stations/pdf/4d.pdf
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
Luncheon Soup Recipes
Turkey Chili – (Wendy’s Chili*)
Dana Sullivan—West Linn
2 lbs ground turkey
14.5 oz cans tomato sauce
2 14.5 oz cans kidney beans, drained and rinsed
2 14.5 oz cans pinto beans, drained and rinsed
1 cup diced onion
1 4 oz can diced green chilies
½ cup diced celery
3 15 oz cans stewed tomatoes, chopped in food processor
2 tsp cumin
3 tsp chili powder
2 tsp salt
2 cups water
Brown meat with onions and celery; drain fat. Add all ingredients to a crock pot and cook for 2 to 4 hours.
*Wendy’s recipe calls lean ground beef
Cheesy Potato Soup serves 4
Sue Milliron—West Linn
3 large potatoes, diced
2 T minced celery
1 T minced carrot
1 T minced onion
2 C chicken broth
1 t salt
1/4 t pepper
2 T white vinegar
Bring the above ingredients to a boil;reduce heat and simmer 30 min. or until potatoes are cooked. Mix together 1 1/2 C milk with 2 T flour; add to soup mixture and cook additional 5-10 minutes. Add 1 C cheddar cheese and cook until melted.
Optional: sprinkle each serving with bacon bits,chopped green onions, additional cheese.
Chicken and Wild Rice Soup
Brook Smith
1 c. butter
1 finely chopped onion
½ – 1 c. frozen corn (or ½ c. chopped celery, if preferred)
½ lb fresh mushrooms, sliced
½ c. carrots, sliced
¾ c. all-purpose flour
6 ½ c. chicken broth (can use 7 bouillon cubes plus 6 ½ c. water)
2 c. cooked wild rice (once I tried using a box of wild rice/brown rice combo with
a seasoning packet and it was great)
1 lb boneless, skinless chicken breasts, cooked and cubed
½ tsp salt
½ tsp curry powder
½ tsp mustard powder
½ tsp dried parsley
½ tsp black pepper
1 c. slivered almonds
2 c. half-and-half (you could use non-fat half-and-half for a low-fat version, but I
haven’t tried it.)
Melt butter in a large saucepan over medium heat. Stir in the onion, corn, and
carrots and sauté for 5 minutes. Add the mushrooms and sauté 3-4 minutes
more. Then add flour and stir well. Transfer mixture to a large pot. Over medium
heat, gradually pour in the chicken broth, stirring constantly until all has been
added. Bring just to a boil and then reduce heat to low and let simmer.
Next add the rice, chicken, salt, curry powder, mustard powder, parsley, ground
black pepper and almonds. Allow to heat through then pour in the half-and-half.
Let simmer for 1 to 1 ½ hours. Do not boil or the roux will break. Delicious served
in a bread bowl as well.
Yield: 6-8 servings
Butternut Squash Soup
Teisha Taylor--Wilsonville
2 tablespoons butter
1 small onion, chopped
1 stalk celery, chopped
1 medium carrot, chopped
2 medium potatoes, cubed
1 medium butternut squash - peeled, seeded, and cubed
1 (32 fluid ounce) container chicken stock
salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
1. Melt the butter in a large pot, and cook the onion, celery, carrot, potatoes, and squash 5 minutes, or until lightly browned. Pour in enough of the chicken stock to cover vegetables. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat to low, cover pot, and simmer 40 minutes, or until all vegetables are tender.
2. Transfer the soup to a blender, and blend until smooth. Return to pot, and mix in any remaining stock to attain desired consistency. Season with salt and pepper
Red Lentil Soup (Gluten free, Dairy free and Vegetarian)
Robin Bullock—Lakeridge Ward
Recipe is on the back of the bag of Bob’s Red Mill Red Lentils and
is called “Rachel’s Lentil Soup”.
Changes and additions I made to the recipe:
I added twice as much oregano and thyme.
Other additions:
2 teaspoons salt
¼ teaspoon pepper.
1 teaspoon curry
½ teaspoon cumin.
Slow Cooker Chicken Tortilla Soup
Tianne Call—Wilsonville Ward
Ingredients:
1 pound shredded, cooked chicken
1 (15 ounce) can diced tomatoes
1 (19 ounce) can enchilada sauce
1 medium onion, chopped
1 (4 ounce) can chopped green chile peppers
2 cloves garlic, minced
2 (14.5 ounce) can chicken broth
2 teaspoon chili powder
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon black pepper
2 bay leaves
1 (10 ounce) package frozen corn
1 (15 ounce) can of black beans, rinsed
Directions: I sauted the garlic & onion for a few minutes in a little butter before placing them into the slow cooker. Place all ingredients into a slow cooker, including the liquid in the can of tomatoes & chiles. Cover, and cook on Low setting for 6 to 8 hours or on High setting for 3 to 4 hours.
Serve with grated cheese, sour cream, hot sauce, tortilla chips on the side.
Note: You can cook the chicken raw/frozen whole breasts & shred 3 1/2 hours after cooking on high.
Slow Cooker Cheese Soup from the Rival Slow Cooker Recipe Card Collection
Tiana Gates – West Linn Ward
2 cans Condensed Cream of Celery Soup, undiluted
4 Cp. Shredded Cheddar Cheese
1 tsp. Paprika
1 tsp. Worcestershire Sauce
1 1/4 Cps. Half and Half
Salt and Pepper to taste
A. Combine soup, cheese, paprika, and worcestershire sauce in slow-cooker.
B. Cover, cook on LOW 2 to 3 hours.
C. Add Half and Half: Stir until Blended. Cover and Cook for another 20 minutes. Season with Salt and Pepper to taste.
Sweet Potato-Peanut Bisque
Tiana Gates--- West Linn Ward
http://www.eatingwell.com/recipes/sweet_potato_peanut_bisque.html
From EatingWell: September/October 2009
This satisfying vegetarian, sweet potato soup is inspired by the flavors of West African peanut soup. We like the added zip of hot green chiles, but they can sometimes be very spicy. It’s best to take a small bite first and add them to taste. Try chopped peanuts and scallions for a different garnish. Serve with a mixed green salad with vinaigrette.
5 servings, about 1 1/2 cups each Active Time: 30 minutes Total Time: 30 minutes
Ingredients
• 2 large sweet potatoes (10-12 ounces each)
• 1 tablespoon canola oil
• 1 small yellow onion, chopped
• 1 large clove garlic, minced
• 3 cups reduced-sodium tomato-vegetable juice blend or tomato juice
• 1 4-ounce can diced green chiles, preferably hot, drained
• 2 teaspoons minced fresh ginger
• 1 teaspoon ground allspice
• 1 15-ounce can vegetable broth
• 1/2 cup smooth natural peanut butter
• Freshly ground pepper to taste
• Chopped fresh cilantro leaves for garnish
Preparation
1. Prick sweet potatoes in several places with a fork. Microwave on High until just cooked through, 7 to 10 minutes. Set aside to cool. ( I actually found it easier to peel and chop the Potatoes before microwaving)
2. Meanwhile, heat oil in a large saucepan or Dutch oven over medium-high heat. Add onion and cook, stirring, until it just begins to brown, 2 to 4 minutes. Add garlic and cook, stirring, for 1 minute more. Stir in juice, green chiles, ginger and allspice. Adjust the heat so the mixture boils gently; cook for 10 minutes.
3. Meanwhile, peel the sweet potatoes and chop into bite-size pieces. Add half to the pot. Place the other half in a food processor or blender along with broth and peanut butter. Puree until completely smooth. Add the puree to the pot and stir well to combine. Thin the bisque with water, if desired. Season with pepper. Heat until hot. Garnish with cilantro, if desired.
Nutrition
Per serving : 291 Calories; 16 g Fat; 3 g Sat; 8 g Mono; 0 mg Cholesterol; 30 g Carbohydrates; 10 g Protein; 6 g Fiber; 474 mg Sodium; 1011 mg Potassium
1 1/2 Carbohydrate Serving
Exchanges: 1 starch, 1 vegetable, 1 1/2 high fat meat, 1/2 fat
Tips & Notes
• Make Ahead Tip: Cover and refrigerate for up to 3 days. Thin with water before reheating, if desired.
Dana Sullivan—West Linn
2 lbs ground turkey
14.5 oz cans tomato sauce
2 14.5 oz cans kidney beans, drained and rinsed
2 14.5 oz cans pinto beans, drained and rinsed
1 cup diced onion
1 4 oz can diced green chilies
½ cup diced celery
3 15 oz cans stewed tomatoes, chopped in food processor
2 tsp cumin
3 tsp chili powder
2 tsp salt
2 cups water
Brown meat with onions and celery; drain fat. Add all ingredients to a crock pot and cook for 2 to 4 hours.
*Wendy’s recipe calls lean ground beef
Cheesy Potato Soup serves 4
Sue Milliron—West Linn
3 large potatoes, diced
2 T minced celery
1 T minced carrot
1 T minced onion
2 C chicken broth
1 t salt
1/4 t pepper
2 T white vinegar
Bring the above ingredients to a boil;reduce heat and simmer 30 min. or until potatoes are cooked. Mix together 1 1/2 C milk with 2 T flour; add to soup mixture and cook additional 5-10 minutes. Add 1 C cheddar cheese and cook until melted.
Optional: sprinkle each serving with bacon bits,chopped green onions, additional cheese.
Chicken and Wild Rice Soup
Brook Smith
1 c. butter
1 finely chopped onion
½ – 1 c. frozen corn (or ½ c. chopped celery, if preferred)
½ lb fresh mushrooms, sliced
½ c. carrots, sliced
¾ c. all-purpose flour
6 ½ c. chicken broth (can use 7 bouillon cubes plus 6 ½ c. water)
2 c. cooked wild rice (once I tried using a box of wild rice/brown rice combo with
a seasoning packet and it was great)
1 lb boneless, skinless chicken breasts, cooked and cubed
½ tsp salt
½ tsp curry powder
½ tsp mustard powder
½ tsp dried parsley
½ tsp black pepper
1 c. slivered almonds
2 c. half-and-half (you could use non-fat half-and-half for a low-fat version, but I
haven’t tried it.)
Melt butter in a large saucepan over medium heat. Stir in the onion, corn, and
carrots and sauté for 5 minutes. Add the mushrooms and sauté 3-4 minutes
more. Then add flour and stir well. Transfer mixture to a large pot. Over medium
heat, gradually pour in the chicken broth, stirring constantly until all has been
added. Bring just to a boil and then reduce heat to low and let simmer.
Next add the rice, chicken, salt, curry powder, mustard powder, parsley, ground
black pepper and almonds. Allow to heat through then pour in the half-and-half.
Let simmer for 1 to 1 ½ hours. Do not boil or the roux will break. Delicious served
in a bread bowl as well.
Yield: 6-8 servings
Butternut Squash Soup
Teisha Taylor--Wilsonville
2 tablespoons butter
1 small onion, chopped
1 stalk celery, chopped
1 medium carrot, chopped
2 medium potatoes, cubed
1 medium butternut squash - peeled, seeded, and cubed
1 (32 fluid ounce) container chicken stock
salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste
1. Melt the butter in a large pot, and cook the onion, celery, carrot, potatoes, and squash 5 minutes, or until lightly browned. Pour in enough of the chicken stock to cover vegetables. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat to low, cover pot, and simmer 40 minutes, or until all vegetables are tender.
2. Transfer the soup to a blender, and blend until smooth. Return to pot, and mix in any remaining stock to attain desired consistency. Season with salt and pepper
Red Lentil Soup (Gluten free, Dairy free and Vegetarian)
Robin Bullock—Lakeridge Ward
Recipe is on the back of the bag of Bob’s Red Mill Red Lentils and
is called “Rachel’s Lentil Soup”.
Changes and additions I made to the recipe:
I added twice as much oregano and thyme.
Other additions:
2 teaspoons salt
¼ teaspoon pepper.
1 teaspoon curry
½ teaspoon cumin.
Slow Cooker Chicken Tortilla Soup
Tianne Call—Wilsonville Ward
Ingredients:
1 pound shredded, cooked chicken
1 (15 ounce) can diced tomatoes
1 (19 ounce) can enchilada sauce
1 medium onion, chopped
1 (4 ounce) can chopped green chile peppers
2 cloves garlic, minced
2 (14.5 ounce) can chicken broth
2 teaspoon chili powder
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon black pepper
2 bay leaves
1 (10 ounce) package frozen corn
1 (15 ounce) can of black beans, rinsed
Directions: I sauted the garlic & onion for a few minutes in a little butter before placing them into the slow cooker. Place all ingredients into a slow cooker, including the liquid in the can of tomatoes & chiles. Cover, and cook on Low setting for 6 to 8 hours or on High setting for 3 to 4 hours.
Serve with grated cheese, sour cream, hot sauce, tortilla chips on the side.
Note: You can cook the chicken raw/frozen whole breasts & shred 3 1/2 hours after cooking on high.
Slow Cooker Cheese Soup from the Rival Slow Cooker Recipe Card Collection
Tiana Gates – West Linn Ward
2 cans Condensed Cream of Celery Soup, undiluted
4 Cp. Shredded Cheddar Cheese
1 tsp. Paprika
1 tsp. Worcestershire Sauce
1 1/4 Cps. Half and Half
Salt and Pepper to taste
A. Combine soup, cheese, paprika, and worcestershire sauce in slow-cooker.
B. Cover, cook on LOW 2 to 3 hours.
C. Add Half and Half: Stir until Blended. Cover and Cook for another 20 minutes. Season with Salt and Pepper to taste.
Sweet Potato-Peanut Bisque
Tiana Gates--- West Linn Ward
http://www.eatingwell.com/recipes/sweet_potato_peanut_bisque.html
From EatingWell: September/October 2009
This satisfying vegetarian, sweet potato soup is inspired by the flavors of West African peanut soup. We like the added zip of hot green chiles, but they can sometimes be very spicy. It’s best to take a small bite first and add them to taste. Try chopped peanuts and scallions for a different garnish. Serve with a mixed green salad with vinaigrette.
5 servings, about 1 1/2 cups each Active Time: 30 minutes Total Time: 30 minutes
Ingredients
• 2 large sweet potatoes (10-12 ounces each)
• 1 tablespoon canola oil
• 1 small yellow onion, chopped
• 1 large clove garlic, minced
• 3 cups reduced-sodium tomato-vegetable juice blend or tomato juice
• 1 4-ounce can diced green chiles, preferably hot, drained
• 2 teaspoons minced fresh ginger
• 1 teaspoon ground allspice
• 1 15-ounce can vegetable broth
• 1/2 cup smooth natural peanut butter
• Freshly ground pepper to taste
• Chopped fresh cilantro leaves for garnish
Preparation
1. Prick sweet potatoes in several places with a fork. Microwave on High until just cooked through, 7 to 10 minutes. Set aside to cool. ( I actually found it easier to peel and chop the Potatoes before microwaving)
2. Meanwhile, heat oil in a large saucepan or Dutch oven over medium-high heat. Add onion and cook, stirring, until it just begins to brown, 2 to 4 minutes. Add garlic and cook, stirring, for 1 minute more. Stir in juice, green chiles, ginger and allspice. Adjust the heat so the mixture boils gently; cook for 10 minutes.
3. Meanwhile, peel the sweet potatoes and chop into bite-size pieces. Add half to the pot. Place the other half in a food processor or blender along with broth and peanut butter. Puree until completely smooth. Add the puree to the pot and stir well to combine. Thin the bisque with water, if desired. Season with pepper. Heat until hot. Garnish with cilantro, if desired.
Nutrition
Per serving : 291 Calories; 16 g Fat; 3 g Sat; 8 g Mono; 0 mg Cholesterol; 30 g Carbohydrates; 10 g Protein; 6 g Fiber; 474 mg Sodium; 1011 mg Potassium
1 1/2 Carbohydrate Serving
Exchanges: 1 starch, 1 vegetable, 1 1/2 high fat meat, 1/2 fat
Tips & Notes
• Make Ahead Tip: Cover and refrigerate for up to 3 days. Thin with water before reheating, if desired.
Power in the Cool Collected Mind: Managing Anxiety
Women's Conference class by Katie Curtis
Distorted Automatic Thoughts
Mind reading: You assume that you know what people think without having sufficient evidence of their thoughts. "He thinks I'm a loser."
Fortunetelling: You predict the future negatively; things will get worse, or there is danger ahead. "I'll fail that exam," or "I won't get the job."
Catastrophizing: You believe that what has happened or what will happen will be so awful and unbearable that you won't be able to stand it. "It would be terrible if I failed."
Labeling: You assign global negative traits to yourself and others. "I'm undesirable," or "He's a rotten person."
Discounting positives: You claim that the positive things you or others do are trivial. "Those successes were easy, so they don't matter."
Negative filtering: You focus almost exclusively on the negatives and seldom notice the positives. "Look at all the people who don't like me."
Overgeneralizing: You perceive a global pattern of negatives on the basis of a single incident. "This generally happens to me. I seem to fail at a lot of things."
Dichotomous thinking: You view events or people in all-or-nothing terms. "I get rejected by everyone," or "It was a complete waste of time."
Shoulds: You interpret events in terms of how things should be, rather than simply focusing on what is. "I should do well. If I don't, then I'm a failure."
Personalizing: You attribute a disproportionate amount of the blame to yourself for negative events, and you fail to see that certain events are also cause by others.
Blaming: You focus on the other person as the source of your negative feelings, and you refuse to take responsibility for changing yourself. "She's to blame for the way I feel now," or "My parents caused all my problems."
Unfair comparisons: You interpret events in terms of standards that are unrealistic—for example, you focus primarily on others who do better than you and find yourself inferior in the comparison. "She's more successful than I am," or "Others did better than I did on the test."
Regret orientation: You focus on the idea that you could have done better in the past, rather on what you can do better now. "I could have had a better job if I had tried," or "I shouldn't have said that."
What if?: You keep asking a series of questions about "what if" something happens, and you fail to be satisfied with any of the answers. "Yeah, but what if I get anxious?" or "What if I can't catch my breath?"
Emotional reasoning: You let your feelings guide your interpretation of reality.
Inability to disconfirm: You reject any evidence or arguments that might contradict your negative thoughts. For example, when you have the thought "I'm unlovable," you reject as irrelevant any evidence that people like you. Consequently, your thoughts cannot be refuted. "That's not the real issue. There are deeper problems. There are other factors."
Judgment focus: You view yourself, others, and events in terms of evaluations as good-bad or superior-inferior, rather than simply describing, accepting, or understanding. You are continually measuring yourself and others according to arbitrary standards, and finding that you and others fall short. You are focused on the judgments of others as well as your own judgments of yourself. "I didn't perform well in college," or "Look how successful she is. I'm not successful.
Distorted Automatic Thoughts
Mind reading: You assume that you know what people think without having sufficient evidence of their thoughts. "He thinks I'm a loser."
Fortunetelling: You predict the future negatively; things will get worse, or there is danger ahead. "I'll fail that exam," or "I won't get the job."
Catastrophizing: You believe that what has happened or what will happen will be so awful and unbearable that you won't be able to stand it. "It would be terrible if I failed."
Labeling: You assign global negative traits to yourself and others. "I'm undesirable," or "He's a rotten person."
Discounting positives: You claim that the positive things you or others do are trivial. "Those successes were easy, so they don't matter."
Negative filtering: You focus almost exclusively on the negatives and seldom notice the positives. "Look at all the people who don't like me."
Overgeneralizing: You perceive a global pattern of negatives on the basis of a single incident. "This generally happens to me. I seem to fail at a lot of things."
Dichotomous thinking: You view events or people in all-or-nothing terms. "I get rejected by everyone," or "It was a complete waste of time."
Shoulds: You interpret events in terms of how things should be, rather than simply focusing on what is. "I should do well. If I don't, then I'm a failure."
Personalizing: You attribute a disproportionate amount of the blame to yourself for negative events, and you fail to see that certain events are also cause by others.
Blaming: You focus on the other person as the source of your negative feelings, and you refuse to take responsibility for changing yourself. "She's to blame for the way I feel now," or "My parents caused all my problems."
Unfair comparisons: You interpret events in terms of standards that are unrealistic—for example, you focus primarily on others who do better than you and find yourself inferior in the comparison. "She's more successful than I am," or "Others did better than I did on the test."
Regret orientation: You focus on the idea that you could have done better in the past, rather on what you can do better now. "I could have had a better job if I had tried," or "I shouldn't have said that."
What if?: You keep asking a series of questions about "what if" something happens, and you fail to be satisfied with any of the answers. "Yeah, but what if I get anxious?" or "What if I can't catch my breath?"
Emotional reasoning: You let your feelings guide your interpretation of reality.
Inability to disconfirm: You reject any evidence or arguments that might contradict your negative thoughts. For example, when you have the thought "I'm unlovable," you reject as irrelevant any evidence that people like you. Consequently, your thoughts cannot be refuted. "That's not the real issue. There are deeper problems. There are other factors."
Judgment focus: You view yourself, others, and events in terms of evaluations as good-bad or superior-inferior, rather than simply describing, accepting, or understanding. You are continually measuring yourself and others according to arbitrary standards, and finding that you and others fall short. You are focused on the judgments of others as well as your own judgments of yourself. "I didn't perform well in college," or "Look how successful she is. I'm not successful.
Sharing Station: Personal Progress, Starring YOUth
Sharing Station created by the Lake Oswego Stake Young Women's Presidency
Personal Progress for Parents
Info from website: PersonalProgress.lds.org
Value Experiences
A young woman may work on the values in any order.
With the exception of the value of virtue, young women are encouraged to complete the required value experiences before doing the project for that value.
Value Projects
A value project is intended to help a young woman apply what she has learned from the value experiences.
A young woman should spend a minimum of ten hours for each value project. The same ten hours may not count for more than one value project.
Young women may work together on projects. However, a young woman must spend a minimum of ten hours of her own time if she is using that project to fulfill her own Personal Progress requirement.
With the prior approval of parents or Young Women leaders, the good things young women are doing at home, Church, school, seminary, and in the community may fulfill the requirements of Personal Progress.
Completing Personal Progress
When a young woman completes the Personal Progress requirements before leaving Young Women, she should be invited to help other young women who are still working on Personal Progress. She should also be encouraged to earn an Honor Bee or begin the program again.
Tracking and Pacing
Young women may work at their own pace in the Personal Progress program; however, it is recommended that a young woman complete at least one value experience each month and one value project every six months (two a year). If she starts working when she enters Young Women at age 12 and continues at this suggested pace, she will finish when she is 16. She will then have two years to earn an Honor Bee or begin the program again as suggested on page 83 of the Personal Progress manual.
Participation of mothers
Mothers are welcome to participate with young women in earning the Young Womanhood Recognition, (as well as adult young women leaders). Mothers work from their own Personal Progress book (or their own log in online) and may earn the recognition along with their daughter. It is recommended that a daughter earn her recognition before or along with her mother.
Mothers may select different options for the elective value experiences and the value projects from their daughters. The experiences and projects may be signed and dated by their daughter, their spouse, a Young Women leader, or another adult. (Online, adults don’t need special approval.)
Personal Progress Online
Why do it online?
Encourage your daughter to sign in and start to use it as a tool. The entire Personal Progress book is online, with links to the scriptures to be read, and a spot to journal their thoughts. When they’ve completed a value experience or project, they will send this information to a young women leader or parent for approval, (the girls usually choose their mother). This means, you would sit down with your daughter, and discuss what she’s done/learned. Read from the book or the website what was required of her. Discuss what it meant to her. Then sign her off by signing her book, or hitting the “approve” button. It is not necessary for you to read her journal entry to be able to pass it off. Then, after many years of progressing, personally, and she has completed everything, she can print the whole book out, including her journal and a photo that she has uploaded.
How does your daughter sign in?
She will need her birth date and her church ID number (located on her individual temple recommend if she has one, or she can get it from the ward clerk.
How do you sign in?
Use your regular LDS.ORG user name and password. Once you’re logged in, you will be able to access their info. You will see what she’s working on and what she’s finished with and ready for you to pass off (approve). You will not be able to see her journal entries. That is private. (Be sure to reassure your daughter of this very important fact.)
How to sign up for Personal Progress Online
personalprogress.lds.org (no www’s)
1) click on “sign in” (pink words) in the upper right corner of screen. (If there are no pink words in the upper right corner, then click on the “getting started” – black words, about half way down the page on the right, and then the pink words will show up.
2) click on “register here” (blue words) on the right side of screen
3) type in your membership record number (found on your individual temple recommend – or can be obtained from your ward clerk)
4) type in your date of birth
5) there is an image with some letters. Type them in the box below.
6) Click on the “next step” button at the bottom of the page.
You’re ready to start!
Lake Oswego Stake Young Women
Personal Progress Value Experiences
At-a-Glance
Value Action Estimated Time
Faith - 1 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 3 weeks
Faith - 2 Read, Interview, Journal 1 1/2 hr
Faith - 3 Read, Share, Journal 1 hour
Faith - 4 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 3 weeks
Faith - 5 Read, Share, Journal 1 hour
Faith - 6 Read, Teach 1 1/2 hr
Faith - 7 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 3 months
Divine Nature - 1 Read, Journal 1 hour
Divine Nature - 2 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 2 weeks
Divine Nature - 3 Do, Share 2 weeks
Divine Nature - 4 Memorize, Do, Journal 1-2 hrs + 2 wks
Divine Nature - 5 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 2 weeks
Divine Nature - 6 Read, Mmorize,Do,Jrnal 1 1/2 hr + 2 wks
Divine Nature - 7 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 2 weeks
Individual Worth - 1 Read, Journal 1 hour
Individual Worth - 2 Read, Share 1 hour
Individual Worth - 3 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 2 weeks
Individual Worth - 4 Read, Journal, Share 1 hour
Individual Worth - 5 Do (an event), Journal the event + 1/2 hr
Individual Worth - 6 Visit, Do the visit + 1/2 hr
Individual Worth - 7 Read, Ask help, Journal 1 hour
Knowledge - 1 Read, Journal 1 hour
Knowledge - 2 Journal, Learn, Share hours or weeks
Knowledge - 3 Mmrze, visit, Jrnal, Share 1 hour + visit
Knowledge - 4 Read, Talk, Journal 2 hours
Knowledge - 5 Learn, Visit, Journal 2-3 hours
Knowledge - 6 Memorize, Learn, Read 2 hours
Knoweldge - 7 Learn, Journal, Teach 2 hours + camp
Choice/Acctbility - 1 Read, Do, Share 1 hour + weeks
Choice/Acctbility - 2 Read, Jrnal, Do, Share 1-2 hrs, + 3 wks
Choice/Acctbility - 3 Read, Share, Journal 1 hour
Choice/Acctbility - 4 Read, Journal, Do 1 hour + weeks
Choice/Acctbility - 5 Read, Share, Journal, Do 1 hour + weeks
Choice/Acctbility - 6 Read, Journal 1 hour
Choice/Acctbility - 7 Read, Do, Journal 1 hour + 3 mo
Good Works - 1 Read, Do 1 hour + 2 weeks
Good Works - 2 Do, Share 2 weeks
Good Works - 3 Read, Jrnal, Do,Share 1 hour + weeks
Good Works - 4 Teach 2-3 hours
Good Works - 5 Read, Do, Journal 1 hour + 1 month
Good Works - 6 Do, Journal 3 1/2 hours
Good Works - 7 Read, Do, Share 1 hour
Integrity - 1 Read, Journal, Do 1 1/2 hrs + 1 mo.
Integrity - 2 Think, Journal 1 hour
Integrity - 3 Read, Journal, Share 1 hour
Integrity - 4 Read, Visit, Journal 1 - 1 1/2 hours
Integrity - 5 Read, Journal, Do 1 hour + 3 weeks
Integrity - 6 Do (on Fast Sunday) 1 hour
Integrity - 7 Read, Journal 1-2 hours
Virtue - 1 Read, Journal 1 hour
Virtue - 2 Read, Journal 1 hour
Virtue - 3 Read, Journal 1 hour
Virtue - 4 Read, Journal 1 hour
Personal Progress for Parents
Info from website: PersonalProgress.lds.org
Value Experiences
A young woman may work on the values in any order.
With the exception of the value of virtue, young women are encouraged to complete the required value experiences before doing the project for that value.
Value Projects
A value project is intended to help a young woman apply what she has learned from the value experiences.
A young woman should spend a minimum of ten hours for each value project. The same ten hours may not count for more than one value project.
Young women may work together on projects. However, a young woman must spend a minimum of ten hours of her own time if she is using that project to fulfill her own Personal Progress requirement.
With the prior approval of parents or Young Women leaders, the good things young women are doing at home, Church, school, seminary, and in the community may fulfill the requirements of Personal Progress.
Completing Personal Progress
When a young woman completes the Personal Progress requirements before leaving Young Women, she should be invited to help other young women who are still working on Personal Progress. She should also be encouraged to earn an Honor Bee or begin the program again.
Tracking and Pacing
Young women may work at their own pace in the Personal Progress program; however, it is recommended that a young woman complete at least one value experience each month and one value project every six months (two a year). If she starts working when she enters Young Women at age 12 and continues at this suggested pace, she will finish when she is 16. She will then have two years to earn an Honor Bee or begin the program again as suggested on page 83 of the Personal Progress manual.
Participation of mothers
Mothers are welcome to participate with young women in earning the Young Womanhood Recognition, (as well as adult young women leaders). Mothers work from their own Personal Progress book (or their own log in online) and may earn the recognition along with their daughter. It is recommended that a daughter earn her recognition before or along with her mother.
Mothers may select different options for the elective value experiences and the value projects from their daughters. The experiences and projects may be signed and dated by their daughter, their spouse, a Young Women leader, or another adult. (Online, adults don’t need special approval.)
Personal Progress Online
Why do it online?
Encourage your daughter to sign in and start to use it as a tool. The entire Personal Progress book is online, with links to the scriptures to be read, and a spot to journal their thoughts. When they’ve completed a value experience or project, they will send this information to a young women leader or parent for approval, (the girls usually choose their mother). This means, you would sit down with your daughter, and discuss what she’s done/learned. Read from the book or the website what was required of her. Discuss what it meant to her. Then sign her off by signing her book, or hitting the “approve” button. It is not necessary for you to read her journal entry to be able to pass it off. Then, after many years of progressing, personally, and she has completed everything, she can print the whole book out, including her journal and a photo that she has uploaded.
How does your daughter sign in?
She will need her birth date and her church ID number (located on her individual temple recommend if she has one, or she can get it from the ward clerk.
How do you sign in?
Use your regular LDS.ORG user name and password. Once you’re logged in, you will be able to access their info. You will see what she’s working on and what she’s finished with and ready for you to pass off (approve). You will not be able to see her journal entries. That is private. (Be sure to reassure your daughter of this very important fact.)
How to sign up for Personal Progress Online
personalprogress.lds.org (no www’s)
1) click on “sign in” (pink words) in the upper right corner of screen. (If there are no pink words in the upper right corner, then click on the “getting started” – black words, about half way down the page on the right, and then the pink words will show up.
2) click on “register here” (blue words) on the right side of screen
3) type in your membership record number (found on your individual temple recommend – or can be obtained from your ward clerk)
4) type in your date of birth
5) there is an image with some letters. Type them in the box below.
6) Click on the “next step” button at the bottom of the page.
You’re ready to start!
Lake Oswego Stake Young Women
Personal Progress Value Experiences
At-a-Glance
Value Action Estimated Time
Faith - 1 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 3 weeks
Faith - 2 Read, Interview, Journal 1 1/2 hr
Faith - 3 Read, Share, Journal 1 hour
Faith - 4 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 3 weeks
Faith - 5 Read, Share, Journal 1 hour
Faith - 6 Read, Teach 1 1/2 hr
Faith - 7 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 3 months
Divine Nature - 1 Read, Journal 1 hour
Divine Nature - 2 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 2 weeks
Divine Nature - 3 Do, Share 2 weeks
Divine Nature - 4 Memorize, Do, Journal 1-2 hrs + 2 wks
Divine Nature - 5 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 2 weeks
Divine Nature - 6 Read, Mmorize,Do,Jrnal 1 1/2 hr + 2 wks
Divine Nature - 7 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 2 weeks
Individual Worth - 1 Read, Journal 1 hour
Individual Worth - 2 Read, Share 1 hour
Individual Worth - 3 Read, Do, Journal 1 hr + 2 weeks
Individual Worth - 4 Read, Journal, Share 1 hour
Individual Worth - 5 Do (an event), Journal the event + 1/2 hr
Individual Worth - 6 Visit, Do the visit + 1/2 hr
Individual Worth - 7 Read, Ask help, Journal 1 hour
Knowledge - 1 Read, Journal 1 hour
Knowledge - 2 Journal, Learn, Share hours or weeks
Knowledge - 3 Mmrze, visit, Jrnal, Share 1 hour + visit
Knowledge - 4 Read, Talk, Journal 2 hours
Knowledge - 5 Learn, Visit, Journal 2-3 hours
Knowledge - 6 Memorize, Learn, Read 2 hours
Knoweldge - 7 Learn, Journal, Teach 2 hours + camp
Choice/Acctbility - 1 Read, Do, Share 1 hour + weeks
Choice/Acctbility - 2 Read, Jrnal, Do, Share 1-2 hrs, + 3 wks
Choice/Acctbility - 3 Read, Share, Journal 1 hour
Choice/Acctbility - 4 Read, Journal, Do 1 hour + weeks
Choice/Acctbility - 5 Read, Share, Journal, Do 1 hour + weeks
Choice/Acctbility - 6 Read, Journal 1 hour
Choice/Acctbility - 7 Read, Do, Journal 1 hour + 3 mo
Good Works - 1 Read, Do 1 hour + 2 weeks
Good Works - 2 Do, Share 2 weeks
Good Works - 3 Read, Jrnal, Do,Share 1 hour + weeks
Good Works - 4 Teach 2-3 hours
Good Works - 5 Read, Do, Journal 1 hour + 1 month
Good Works - 6 Do, Journal 3 1/2 hours
Good Works - 7 Read, Do, Share 1 hour
Integrity - 1 Read, Journal, Do 1 1/2 hrs + 1 mo.
Integrity - 2 Think, Journal 1 hour
Integrity - 3 Read, Journal, Share 1 hour
Integrity - 4 Read, Visit, Journal 1 - 1 1/2 hours
Integrity - 5 Read, Journal, Do 1 hour + 3 weeks
Integrity - 6 Do (on Fast Sunday) 1 hour
Integrity - 7 Read, Journal 1-2 hours
Virtue - 1 Read, Journal 1 hour
Virtue - 2 Read, Journal 1 hour
Virtue - 3 Read, Journal 1 hour
Virtue - 4 Read, Journal 1 hour
Monday, January 30, 2012
The Nine: Simple Ways to Improve Your Health
Women's Conference class by Tanya Thompson
1. Be a label reader.
2. Breakfast for a queen, lunch for a princess and dinner for a peasant.
3. Save jet fuel for jets.
4. Engage in moderate exercise for 30 minutes, 5 days per week.
5. Get enough sleep...and make it restful.
6. Stay hydrated.
7. Avoid the pitfalls of eating out.
8. Clean food = clean body.
9. Give your hunger signals permission to shut off...and listen when they do.
www.tetfitness.com
1. Be a label reader.
2. Breakfast for a queen, lunch for a princess and dinner for a peasant.
3. Save jet fuel for jets.
4. Engage in moderate exercise for 30 minutes, 5 days per week.
5. Get enough sleep...and make it restful.
6. Stay hydrated.
7. Avoid the pitfalls of eating out.
8. Clean food = clean body.
9. Give your hunger signals permission to shut off...and listen when they do.
www.tetfitness.com
Saturday, January 28, 2012
Marriage: To Infinity and Beyond
Women's Conference Class by President & Sister Hornibrook (Mark & Ane)
Celestial Marriage is Essential
“Marriage is perhaps the most vital of all the decisions and has the most far-reaching effects, for it has to do not only with immediate happiness, but also with eternal joys.”
“While marriage is difficult, and discordant and frustrated marriages are common, yet real, lasting happiness is possible, and marriage can be, more an exultant ecstasy than the human mind can conceive.”
“Soul Mates’ are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price.” President Spencer W. Kimball, Oneness in Marriage
Keys to Celestial Marriage:
* Let the Lord Lead
* Love your Spouse
* Think Only Good Thoughts
* Communicate
* Keep the Courtship Alive
* Manage Your Finances Together
* Partner in Family Responsibilities
Let the Lord Lead
· Obey Him and He is bound
“I, the Lord, am bound when ye do what I say; but when ye do not what I say, ye have no promise.” (D&C 82:10)
· We become One by letting Him lead
“Counsel with the Lord in all thy doings, and he will direct thee for good” (Alma 37:37)
· Invite His Help by Praying for:
–Your Spouse
–Your Marriage
–The Gift of Charity
“Whatever Jesus lays his hands upon lives. If Jesus lays his hands upon a marriage, it lives. If he is allowed to lay his hands on the family, it lives.”
Howard W. Hunter Ensign November 1979, p.64
“The treasure house of happiness may be unlocked and remain open to those who use the following Keys. You must live the gospel of Jesus Christ in its purity and simplicity – not a half-hearted compliance, but hewing to the line, and this means an all-out devoted consecration to the great program of salvation and exaltation in an orthodox manner. President Kimball, “Marriage”, p10.
"You must forget yourself and love your companion more than yourself.”
President Kimball, “Marriage”, p10.
Do Daily Discipleship
Twice daily personal and family prayer and daily couple prayer
Daily personal and family scripture study
Diligently seek the guidance of the spirit and follow its every whispering
Love Your Spouse
“Thou shalt live together in love…” ( D&C 42:45)
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign Nov 1982, p77
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Ephesians 5:25)
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13)
“Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else.” (D&C 42:22)
Love is a Verb
Exercise Great unselfishness – President Kimball
It is about you improving–not about them (you are the only person you have control over)
Often a person needs the most love when they are the least loveable – as you love them they will become more loveable
60/40 Rule (give 60% and expect 40%, then work to giving 100%)
Welcome each other home warmly
Be aware of changes and adapt
Be supportive of each other
“I pay tribute to Sister Nelson, this magnificent wife and mother who has always been supportive. When people have asked her how she managed with 10 children with so little time available from her husband, she has responded with a twinkle in her eye, saying, ‘When I married him, I didn’t expect much, so I was never disappointed.’ You young women can learn much from Sister Nelson’s example. Sustain your husband in their important work, and don’t be selfish in your expectations. Let your husband return to a home of affection, not contention.” Elder Russell M. Nelson, Identity, Priority & Blessings
“Do not smother each other with excessive restrictions. A loving wife of many years shared with me one of the secrets of her beautiful marriage. She told me, “It is my duty to maintain an atmosphere in our home in which my husband can reach his full potential. And you know, he is a busy father, bishop, and businessman. In turn, he helps me reach my potential.” Hugh W. Pinnock, "Making a Marriage Work” Ensign, Sep 1981,33
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands – “if you do these things they will slay dragons for you” Laura Schlessinger
Appreciation
Admiration
Affection
Show Your Spouse Love - the way they want it… “Love Languages”
Wives – How do you want to be shown that you are loved?
Husbands – How do you want to be shown that you are loved?
Find out and do it. (See handout at the end “Caring Days”
Don’t Even Think of Anyone Else
“Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else.
And he that looketh upon a woman to lust after her shall deny the faith, and shall not have the Spirit” (D&C 42:22-23) this includes pornography.
***Mental Illness and Abuse (temporary and long-term)
· If it is dangerous – get out, seek help of Bishop, counselor, family or friends
· Fortunately medications and counseling can help and even work miracles
Think ONLY Good Thoughts
“My disciples, in days of old, sought occasion against one another and forgave not one another in their hearts; and for this evil they were afflicted and sorely chastened. Wherefore, I say unto you, that ye ought to forgive one another; for he that forgiveth not his brother his trespasses standeth condemned before the Lord; for there remaineth in him the greater sin. I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men.” (D&C 64:8 - 10)
· Forgive your spouse now. Don’t suffer another moment of pain
· If you dwell on one bad thought you reduce your happiness
· Replace that bad thought with a good one or a wonderful one
· Tell them about the good thought
· They will become your good thoughts
“What can make a marriage work is surprisingly simple. Happily married couples aren’t smarter, richer or more psychologically astute than others. But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive ones. They have what I Call an emotionally intelligent marriage. “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” John M. Gottman 1999 P.3
Communicate, Communicate, …
v Daily – 30 to 60 minutes
v Weekly date night with talk time
Ø Dates with other couples don’t count
v It takes time to get to the important issues
v Listen, Listen, Listen
v Have fun and laugh
Communicate With Love and edify…
“Long-suffering, gentleness, meekness, love unfeigned, kindness, and pure knowledge” (D&C 121:41-42)
Ask “How are you doing?” then listen to understand and empathize not to problem solve and fix.
“Compliment each other sincerely and often. A middle-aged wife once told me, “Somebody has to keep my husband humble. He gets so much attention from others that he needs to be brought down a peg or two. He gets too big for his britches.” How sad! Every husband needs a wife who will build him up. Every wife needs a husband who honors and respects her. Building each other with sincere compliments is never a sign of weakness; it is the right thing to do. Anyone who can kneel before a sacred altar with a partner and exchange vows for eternity surely can see enough good in that partner to emphasize the good when talking with others.” Hugh W. Pinnock, “Making a Marriage Work” Ensign, Sep 1981, 33
No negative communication
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying”
Ephesians 4:29
Avoid “ceaseless pinpricking.” Don’t be too critical of each other’s faults. Recognize that none of us is perfect. We all have a long way to go to become as Christ like as our leaders have urged us to become. “Ceaseless pinpricking’ (as President Kimball called it), can deflate almost any marriage. Generally, each of us is painfully aware of our weaknesses, and we don’t need frequent reminders. Few people have ever changed for the better as a result of constant criticism or nagging. If we are not careful, some of what we offer as ‘constructive’ criticism is actually destructive.
“Never make your mate the object of jokes either in private or in public. Partners who poke fun at their mates may think of it as good-natured humor. It is not. It is degrading and dangerous to the relationship. The one so ridiculed will be hurt deeply. To make a joke about private things a husband or wife did at home reveals either a lack of sensitivity or hidden malice and anger created by frustration or hurt feelings. Couples who respect each other do not resort to such degradation.
If You Have an Argument…
You are at least part of the problem, focus on fixing your part first
–They may be too, but that is not your issue
–Remember you are to Forgive everyone
“But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause* shall be in danger of the judgment”
Matthew 5:22 *Joseph Smith Translation - leaves out “without a cause” 3 Nephi 11: 29-30
· Pray hard for help (you will likely need it – go to bathroom to calm down)
· With heaven aided reflection and humility you will usually discover YOUR error
· Then apologize, makeup and show an increase of love
“Be quick to say, I’m sorry’ As hard as it is to form the words, be swift to say, ‘I apologize, and please forgive me,’ even though you are not the one who is totally at fault. True love is developed by those who are willing to readily admit personal mistakes and offenses. When differences do arise, being able to discuss and resolve them is important, but there are instances when it is best to take a time-out. Biting your tongue and counting to ten or even a hundred is important. And occasionally, even letting the sun go down on your wrath can help bring you back to the problem in the morning more rested, calm and with a better chance for resolution.” Elder Joe Christensen, “Marriage and the Great Plan of Happiness”
· Forgive your spouse ASAP
“Wherefore, I say unto you, that ye ought to forgive one another; for he that forgiveth not his brother his trespasses standeth condemned before the Lord; for there remaineth in him the greater sin. 10 I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men.” (D&C 64:9-10)
· Do not just forget about it; work it out as soon as you both can
"We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness."
Neal A. Maxwell, "The Tugs and Pulls of the World," Ensign, Nov. 2000, 36
Keep the Courtship Alive
· Say it, mean it, do it
· Get way together (date nights and getaways)
“Make time to do things together – just the two of you. As important as it is to be with the children as a family, you need regular weekly time alone together. Scheduling it will let your children know that you feel that your marriage is so important that you need to nurture it. That takes commitment, planning, and scheduling. It doesn’t need to be costly. The time together is the most important element.” Elder Joe Christensen, “Marriage and the Great Plan of Happiness”
For ideas on inexpensive dating for young couples with children see “Dating at Home” by Geok Lee Thong at lds.org under Gospel topics: communication, courtship, love marriage
· Intimacy and affection (should be great, if not talk kindly about it and get counsel if needed)
· Trust, Conversation and then Romance
· Only those activities that you are both comfortable with – love is giving of self – Enjoy
“Love is like a flower, and like the body, it needs constant feeding, the mortal body would soon be emaciated and die if there were not frequent feedings. The tender flower would wither and die without food and water. And so love, also, cannot be expected to last forever unless it is continually fed with portions of love, the manifestation of esteem and admiration, the expressions of gratitude, and the consideration of unselfishness.”
“Certainly the foods most vital for love are consideration, kindness, thoughtfulness, concern expressions of affection, embraces of appreciation, admiration, pride, companionship, confidence, faith, partnership, equality, and interdependence.” President Kimball – Oneness in Marriage
Manage Your Finances Together
· Pay honest tithes
· Keep a budget
· Talk about it
· Pray about it
–For help
–To know what is right
See Elder Ashton’s One for the Money in the clerks or Bishop’s office
True Partnership in Family Responsibilities
Husbands and wives share in making a Celestial home.
–Personal and family Prayer
–Personal and family Scripture Study
–Family Home Evening and Family Counsels
–Frequent Temple attendance
–Interviews
–Taking care of a home
Remember –
“The greatest thing you will ever have in this life is the companionship of your beloved wife.” President Gordon B. Hinckley
“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder". Jesus Christ as quoted by Mark 10: 7-9
Chart on Christ-Like Attributes – prayerfully consider how you can improve
(“Agency and Love in Marriage” Lynn G. Robbins, Engisn, Oct. 2000, pg 16)
“Find time to study the scriptures together, and follow this sound counsel from President Kimball: “When a husband and wife go together frequently to the holy temple, kneel in prayer together in their home with their family, go hand in hand to their religious meetings, keep their lives wholly chaste, mentally and physically, … and both are working together for the upbuilding of the kingdom of God, then happiness is at its pinnacle” (Marriage and Divorce, Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1976, p. 24).
“My… suggestion is to contemplate. This word has deep meaning. It comes from Latin roots: con, meaning “with,” and templum, meaning “a space or place to meditate.” It is the root from which the word temple comes. If couples contemplate often—with each other in the temple—sacred covenants will be better remembered and kept. Frequent participation in temple service and regular family scripture study nourish a marriage and strengthen faith within a family. Contemplation allows one to anticipate and to resonate (or be in tune) with each other and with the Lord. Contemplation will nurture both a marriage and God’s kingdom. The Master said, “Seek not the things of this world but seek ye first to build up the kingdom of God, and to establish his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” Russell M. Nelson, “Nurturing Marriage”, Ensign May 2006.
Resources:
www.lds.org under “Menu”, then under “Study” select “Study by Topic” select “M” and the first topic is Marriage.
Lynn G. Robbins, “Agency and Love in Marriage,” Ensign, Oct. 2000, 16
Joe J. Christensen, “Marriage and the Great Plan of Happiness,” Ensign, May 1995, 64
“Putting Our Marriage Back Together,” Ensign, Apr. 1998, 54
Spencer W. Kimball, “Oneness in Marriage,” Ensign, Mar. 1977, 3
Marvin J. Ashton, “Guide to Family Finance,” Liahona, Apr. 2000, 42
Strengthening Our Families, David C. Dollahite, 2000
The Seven Principles of Marking Marriage Work, John M. Gottman, PH.D. 1999.
Marriage, Spencer W. Kimball, 1978
www.providentliving.org Official LDS site for great help on managing resources & family guidance
There is usually an article on marriage in each issue of the Ensign
Happiness is to love your spouse with all your heart, mind and strength for eternity and beyond…
Note: more to follow -- CHART: Agency and Love in Marriage (link to follow)
CARING DAYS
by therapist Richard Stuart (has been clinically shown to strengthen marriages).
First, sit down with our spouse and select, discuss, and agree on 18 behaviors or actions (nine each) that you find loving and would like to receive from him or her. These actions must be:
1. Specific (such as “Tell me you love me at least once a day”)
2. Positive (not “Don’t do this” or “Stop doing that”)
3. Small enough to be done on a daily basis (such as “Call me at work during lunch, just to see how I’m doing”) and
4. Not the subject of any recent conflict!
Second, agree to do five of the actions on the Caring Days list each day, regardless of whether or not your spouse follows through. Even if your spouse doesn’t follow through right away, be patient and persist in doing the actions.
Third, put the list of actions in a conspicuous place, such as on the refrigerator door. The actions will be listed in the middle column, with your name and your spouse’s name listed at the top of the left and right columns. When you receive a requested action from your spouse, place the date next to the specific action. This visual reminder helps reinforce the actions. Some couples have listed actions like “Take me on a date each Friday night.” “Hold my hand when we sit together,” Tell me you love me at last once each day,” and “Give me at least three hugs each day.”
Persist in doing five actions per day for two weeks, so that sending these messages of love begins to become a habit. At the end of two weeks, evaluate how your relationship has changed because of the activity.
(“Strengthening Our Families – An In-Depth Look at the Proclamation on the Family”, School of Family Life, Brigham Young University, pg. 297)
Celestial Marriage is Essential
“Marriage is perhaps the most vital of all the decisions and has the most far-reaching effects, for it has to do not only with immediate happiness, but also with eternal joys.”
“While marriage is difficult, and discordant and frustrated marriages are common, yet real, lasting happiness is possible, and marriage can be, more an exultant ecstasy than the human mind can conceive.”
“Soul Mates’ are fiction and an illusion; and while every young man and young woman will seek with all diligence and prayerfulness to with whom life can be most compatible and beautiful, yet it is certain that almost any good man and any good woman can have happiness and a successful marriage if both are willing to pay the price.” President Spencer W. Kimball, Oneness in Marriage
Keys to Celestial Marriage:
* Let the Lord Lead
* Love your Spouse
* Think Only Good Thoughts
* Communicate
* Keep the Courtship Alive
* Manage Your Finances Together
* Partner in Family Responsibilities
Let the Lord Lead
· Obey Him and He is bound
“I, the Lord, am bound when ye do what I say; but when ye do not what I say, ye have no promise.” (D&C 82:10)
· We become One by letting Him lead
“Counsel with the Lord in all thy doings, and he will direct thee for good” (Alma 37:37)
· Invite His Help by Praying for:
–Your Spouse
–Your Marriage
–The Gift of Charity
“Whatever Jesus lays his hands upon lives. If Jesus lays his hands upon a marriage, it lives. If he is allowed to lay his hands on the family, it lives.”
Howard W. Hunter Ensign November 1979, p.64
“The treasure house of happiness may be unlocked and remain open to those who use the following Keys. You must live the gospel of Jesus Christ in its purity and simplicity – not a half-hearted compliance, but hewing to the line, and this means an all-out devoted consecration to the great program of salvation and exaltation in an orthodox manner. President Kimball, “Marriage”, p10.
"You must forget yourself and love your companion more than yourself.”
President Kimball, “Marriage”, p10.
Do Daily Discipleship
Twice daily personal and family prayer and daily couple prayer
Daily personal and family scripture study
Diligently seek the guidance of the spirit and follow its every whispering
Love Your Spouse
“Thou shalt live together in love…” ( D&C 42:45)
“The most important thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother.” Gordon B. Hinckley, Ensign Nov 1982, p77
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it” (Ephesians 5:25)
“Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13)
“Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else.” (D&C 42:22)
Love is a Verb
Exercise Great unselfishness – President Kimball
It is about you improving–not about them (you are the only person you have control over)
Often a person needs the most love when they are the least loveable – as you love them they will become more loveable
60/40 Rule (give 60% and expect 40%, then work to giving 100%)
Welcome each other home warmly
Be aware of changes and adapt
Be supportive of each other
“I pay tribute to Sister Nelson, this magnificent wife and mother who has always been supportive. When people have asked her how she managed with 10 children with so little time available from her husband, she has responded with a twinkle in her eye, saying, ‘When I married him, I didn’t expect much, so I was never disappointed.’ You young women can learn much from Sister Nelson’s example. Sustain your husband in their important work, and don’t be selfish in your expectations. Let your husband return to a home of affection, not contention.” Elder Russell M. Nelson, Identity, Priority & Blessings
“Do not smother each other with excessive restrictions. A loving wife of many years shared with me one of the secrets of her beautiful marriage. She told me, “It is my duty to maintain an atmosphere in our home in which my husband can reach his full potential. And you know, he is a busy father, bishop, and businessman. In turn, he helps me reach my potential.” Hugh W. Pinnock, "Making a Marriage Work” Ensign, Sep 1981,33
The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands – “if you do these things they will slay dragons for you” Laura Schlessinger
Appreciation
Admiration
Affection
Show Your Spouse Love - the way they want it… “Love Languages”
Wives – How do you want to be shown that you are loved?
Husbands – How do you want to be shown that you are loved?
Find out and do it. (See handout at the end “Caring Days”
Don’t Even Think of Anyone Else
“Thou shalt love thy wife with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else.
And he that looketh upon a woman to lust after her shall deny the faith, and shall not have the Spirit” (D&C 42:22-23) this includes pornography.
***Mental Illness and Abuse (temporary and long-term)
· If it is dangerous – get out, seek help of Bishop, counselor, family or friends
· Fortunately medications and counseling can help and even work miracles
Think ONLY Good Thoughts
“My disciples, in days of old, sought occasion against one another and forgave not one another in their hearts; and for this evil they were afflicted and sorely chastened. Wherefore, I say unto you, that ye ought to forgive one another; for he that forgiveth not his brother his trespasses standeth condemned before the Lord; for there remaineth in him the greater sin. I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men.” (D&C 64:8 - 10)
· Forgive your spouse now. Don’t suffer another moment of pain
· If you dwell on one bad thought you reduce your happiness
· Replace that bad thought with a good one or a wonderful one
· Tell them about the good thought
· They will become your good thoughts
“What can make a marriage work is surprisingly simple. Happily married couples aren’t smarter, richer or more psychologically astute than others. But in their day-to-day lives, they have hit upon a dynamic that keeps their negative thoughts and feelings about each other (which all couples have) from overwhelming their positive ones. They have what I Call an emotionally intelligent marriage. “The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work” John M. Gottman 1999 P.3
Communicate, Communicate, …
v Daily – 30 to 60 minutes
v Weekly date night with talk time
Ø Dates with other couples don’t count
v It takes time to get to the important issues
v Listen, Listen, Listen
v Have fun and laugh
Communicate With Love and edify…
“Long-suffering, gentleness, meekness, love unfeigned, kindness, and pure knowledge” (D&C 121:41-42)
Ask “How are you doing?” then listen to understand and empathize not to problem solve and fix.
“Compliment each other sincerely and often. A middle-aged wife once told me, “Somebody has to keep my husband humble. He gets so much attention from others that he needs to be brought down a peg or two. He gets too big for his britches.” How sad! Every husband needs a wife who will build him up. Every wife needs a husband who honors and respects her. Building each other with sincere compliments is never a sign of weakness; it is the right thing to do. Anyone who can kneel before a sacred altar with a partner and exchange vows for eternity surely can see enough good in that partner to emphasize the good when talking with others.” Hugh W. Pinnock, “Making a Marriage Work” Ensign, Sep 1981, 33
No negative communication
“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying”
Ephesians 4:29
Avoid “ceaseless pinpricking.” Don’t be too critical of each other’s faults. Recognize that none of us is perfect. We all have a long way to go to become as Christ like as our leaders have urged us to become. “Ceaseless pinpricking’ (as President Kimball called it), can deflate almost any marriage. Generally, each of us is painfully aware of our weaknesses, and we don’t need frequent reminders. Few people have ever changed for the better as a result of constant criticism or nagging. If we are not careful, some of what we offer as ‘constructive’ criticism is actually destructive.
“Never make your mate the object of jokes either in private or in public. Partners who poke fun at their mates may think of it as good-natured humor. It is not. It is degrading and dangerous to the relationship. The one so ridiculed will be hurt deeply. To make a joke about private things a husband or wife did at home reveals either a lack of sensitivity or hidden malice and anger created by frustration or hurt feelings. Couples who respect each other do not resort to such degradation.
If You Have an Argument…
You are at least part of the problem, focus on fixing your part first
–They may be too, but that is not your issue
–Remember you are to Forgive everyone
“But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause* shall be in danger of the judgment”
Matthew 5:22 *Joseph Smith Translation - leaves out “without a cause” 3 Nephi 11: 29-30
· Pray hard for help (you will likely need it – go to bathroom to calm down)
· With heaven aided reflection and humility you will usually discover YOUR error
· Then apologize, makeup and show an increase of love
“Be quick to say, I’m sorry’ As hard as it is to form the words, be swift to say, ‘I apologize, and please forgive me,’ even though you are not the one who is totally at fault. True love is developed by those who are willing to readily admit personal mistakes and offenses. When differences do arise, being able to discuss and resolve them is important, but there are instances when it is best to take a time-out. Biting your tongue and counting to ten or even a hundred is important. And occasionally, even letting the sun go down on your wrath can help bring you back to the problem in the morning more rested, calm and with a better chance for resolution.” Elder Joe Christensen, “Marriage and the Great Plan of Happiness”
· Forgive your spouse ASAP
“Wherefore, I say unto you, that ye ought to forgive one another; for he that forgiveth not his brother his trespasses standeth condemned before the Lord; for there remaineth in him the greater sin. 10 I, the Lord, will forgive whom I will forgive, but of you it is required to forgive all men.” (D&C 64:9-10)
· Do not just forget about it; work it out as soon as you both can
"We can respond to irritation with a smile instead of scowl, or by giving warm praise instead of icy indifference. By our being understanding instead of abrupt, others, in turn, may decide to hold on a little longer rather than to give way. Love, patience, and meekness can be just as contagious as rudeness and crudeness."
Neal A. Maxwell, "The Tugs and Pulls of the World," Ensign, Nov. 2000, 36
Keep the Courtship Alive
· Say it, mean it, do it
· Get way together (date nights and getaways)
“Make time to do things together – just the two of you. As important as it is to be with the children as a family, you need regular weekly time alone together. Scheduling it will let your children know that you feel that your marriage is so important that you need to nurture it. That takes commitment, planning, and scheduling. It doesn’t need to be costly. The time together is the most important element.” Elder Joe Christensen, “Marriage and the Great Plan of Happiness”
For ideas on inexpensive dating for young couples with children see “Dating at Home” by Geok Lee Thong at lds.org under Gospel topics: communication, courtship, love marriage
· Intimacy and affection (should be great, if not talk kindly about it and get counsel if needed)
· Trust, Conversation and then Romance
· Only those activities that you are both comfortable with – love is giving of self – Enjoy
“Love is like a flower, and like the body, it needs constant feeding, the mortal body would soon be emaciated and die if there were not frequent feedings. The tender flower would wither and die without food and water. And so love, also, cannot be expected to last forever unless it is continually fed with portions of love, the manifestation of esteem and admiration, the expressions of gratitude, and the consideration of unselfishness.”
“Certainly the foods most vital for love are consideration, kindness, thoughtfulness, concern expressions of affection, embraces of appreciation, admiration, pride, companionship, confidence, faith, partnership, equality, and interdependence.” President Kimball – Oneness in Marriage
Manage Your Finances Together
· Pay honest tithes
· Keep a budget
· Talk about it
· Pray about it
–For help
–To know what is right
See Elder Ashton’s One for the Money in the clerks or Bishop’s office
True Partnership in Family Responsibilities
Husbands and wives share in making a Celestial home.
–Personal and family Prayer
–Personal and family Scripture Study
–Family Home Evening and Family Counsels
–Frequent Temple attendance
–Interviews
–Taking care of a home
Remember –
“The greatest thing you will ever have in this life is the companionship of your beloved wife.” President Gordon B. Hinckley
“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife; and they twain shall be one flesh: so then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder". Jesus Christ as quoted by Mark 10: 7-9
Chart on Christ-Like Attributes – prayerfully consider how you can improve
(“Agency and Love in Marriage” Lynn G. Robbins, Engisn, Oct. 2000, pg 16)
“Find time to study the scriptures together, and follow this sound counsel from President Kimball: “When a husband and wife go together frequently to the holy temple, kneel in prayer together in their home with their family, go hand in hand to their religious meetings, keep their lives wholly chaste, mentally and physically, … and both are working together for the upbuilding of the kingdom of God, then happiness is at its pinnacle” (Marriage and Divorce, Salt Lake City: Deseret Book Co., 1976, p. 24).
“My… suggestion is to contemplate. This word has deep meaning. It comes from Latin roots: con, meaning “with,” and templum, meaning “a space or place to meditate.” It is the root from which the word temple comes. If couples contemplate often—with each other in the temple—sacred covenants will be better remembered and kept. Frequent participation in temple service and regular family scripture study nourish a marriage and strengthen faith within a family. Contemplation allows one to anticipate and to resonate (or be in tune) with each other and with the Lord. Contemplation will nurture both a marriage and God’s kingdom. The Master said, “Seek not the things of this world but seek ye first to build up the kingdom of God, and to establish his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you.” Russell M. Nelson, “Nurturing Marriage”, Ensign May 2006.
Resources:
www.lds.org under “Menu”, then under “Study” select “Study by Topic” select “M” and the first topic is Marriage.
Lynn G. Robbins, “Agency and Love in Marriage,” Ensign, Oct. 2000, 16
Joe J. Christensen, “Marriage and the Great Plan of Happiness,” Ensign, May 1995, 64
“Putting Our Marriage Back Together,” Ensign, Apr. 1998, 54
Spencer W. Kimball, “Oneness in Marriage,” Ensign, Mar. 1977, 3
Marvin J. Ashton, “Guide to Family Finance,” Liahona, Apr. 2000, 42
Strengthening Our Families, David C. Dollahite, 2000
The Seven Principles of Marking Marriage Work, John M. Gottman, PH.D. 1999.
Marriage, Spencer W. Kimball, 1978
www.providentliving.org Official LDS site for great help on managing resources & family guidance
There is usually an article on marriage in each issue of the Ensign
Happiness is to love your spouse with all your heart, mind and strength for eternity and beyond…
Note: more to follow -- CHART: Agency and Love in Marriage (link to follow)
CARING DAYS
by therapist Richard Stuart (has been clinically shown to strengthen marriages).
First, sit down with our spouse and select, discuss, and agree on 18 behaviors or actions (nine each) that you find loving and would like to receive from him or her. These actions must be:
1. Specific (such as “Tell me you love me at least once a day”)
2. Positive (not “Don’t do this” or “Stop doing that”)
3. Small enough to be done on a daily basis (such as “Call me at work during lunch, just to see how I’m doing”) and
4. Not the subject of any recent conflict!
Second, agree to do five of the actions on the Caring Days list each day, regardless of whether or not your spouse follows through. Even if your spouse doesn’t follow through right away, be patient and persist in doing the actions.
Third, put the list of actions in a conspicuous place, such as on the refrigerator door. The actions will be listed in the middle column, with your name and your spouse’s name listed at the top of the left and right columns. When you receive a requested action from your spouse, place the date next to the specific action. This visual reminder helps reinforce the actions. Some couples have listed actions like “Take me on a date each Friday night.” “Hold my hand when we sit together,” Tell me you love me at last once each day,” and “Give me at least three hugs each day.”
Persist in doing five actions per day for two weeks, so that sending these messages of love begins to become a habit. At the end of two weeks, evaluate how your relationship has changed because of the activity.
(“Strengthening Our Families – An In-Depth Look at the Proclamation on the Family”, School of Family Life, Brigham Young University, pg. 297)
Pasta Veloce Quattro Condisce
Four Quick Italian Pasta Sauces
Women's Conference Class by Bsp. Wally Glausi
Alfredo
¼ Part Sweet Cream Butter
1 Part Heavy Whipping Cream
½ Part Grated or Shredded Parmigiano Reggiano Cheese
½ part Grated or Shredded Romano Cheese
1/8 Part White Pepper
Dash of Lemon Juice
Melt Butter in Medium Sized Sauce Pan.
Add Whipping Cream, bring Butter and Whipping Cream to rolling boil and allow to roll-boil for 3-4 minutes.
Add Both Cheeses and stir vigorously until Cheese is fully melted and the sauce is velvety.
Add White Pepper and Lemon Juice.
Toss with either Linguine or Fettucine and serve.
“You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself.” Gallileo Gallilei.
Carbonara
¼ Cube of Sweet Cream Butter
½ Large Yellow Onion Chopped
5 oz of Prosciutto Ham Chopped
2 Tbs Parsley
Black Pepper
1 Large Egg beaten with 2 Tbs milk.
Melt Butter in large frying pan.
Add Chopped Onion and Prosciutto and Saute for about 2-3 minutes until the Butter and Prosciutto fat have covered the Onion and the Onion is turning slightly brown.
Add Parsley and Black Pepper.
Add already cooked and drained Spaghetti or Linguine to frying pan and Saute for 2 minutes. Turn heat off.
Add Egg and Milk mixture and toss in frying pan for one minute and serve.
“To one who has faith, no explanation is necessary. To one without faith, no explanation is possible.”
St. Thomas Aquinas.
Vongole e Funghi
½ Cube Sweet Cream Butter
2 Small Cans of Mushrooms (Funghi) Pieces and Stems, Drained
2 Tbls Chopped or Minced Garlic
2 Cans of Clams (Vongole), NOT drained
2 Tbls Parsley
Sour Cream
Melt Butter in large frying pan.
Add Mushrooms and Garlic and Saute for about 2-3 minutes (until Mushrooms are coated with Butter and no water is left on them).
Add Clams with the Juice and Saute 4-5 minutes (until juice is reduced and moderately thick).
Add Parsley and enough Sour Cream to thicken sauce.
Toss with Spaghetti or Linguine and serve.
“Preach the Gospel at all times; when necessary use words.”
St. Francis of Assisi.
Salsa Alla Putanesca
2 Tbls Olive Oil
2 Tbls Chopped or Minced Garlic
1 Tin of Anchovies wrapped around capers, in Olive Oil
1 Large can of Stewed or Diced Plum Tomatoes
½ Cup of Chopped Black Olives
½ Cup of Chopped Green Olives
1 Tbls Basil
1 Tbls Black Pepper
2 tsp Crushed Red Pepper
Dash or two of Tabasco Sauce
Romano Cheese
Add Olive Oil and Garlic in medium sauce pan, sauté for 2-3 minutes.
Chop Anchovies and add with capers and Olive Oil.
Add Tomatoes, Olives, Basil, Black Pepper, Red Pepper and Tabasco to taste.
Heat for 10-15 minutes on medium heat, stirring regularly.
Toss over Spaghetti.
Add Romano Cheese to taste.
“Time stays long enough for anyone who will use it.”
Leonardo da Vinci
Women's Conference Class by Bsp. Wally Glausi
Alfredo
¼ Part Sweet Cream Butter
1 Part Heavy Whipping Cream
½ Part Grated or Shredded Parmigiano Reggiano Cheese
½ part Grated or Shredded Romano Cheese
1/8 Part White Pepper
Dash of Lemon Juice
Melt Butter in Medium Sized Sauce Pan.
Add Whipping Cream, bring Butter and Whipping Cream to rolling boil and allow to roll-boil for 3-4 minutes.
Add Both Cheeses and stir vigorously until Cheese is fully melted and the sauce is velvety.
Add White Pepper and Lemon Juice.
Toss with either Linguine or Fettucine and serve.
“You cannot teach a man anything; you can only help him discover it in himself.” Gallileo Gallilei.
Carbonara
¼ Cube of Sweet Cream Butter
½ Large Yellow Onion Chopped
5 oz of Prosciutto Ham Chopped
2 Tbs Parsley
Black Pepper
1 Large Egg beaten with 2 Tbs milk.
Melt Butter in large frying pan.
Add Chopped Onion and Prosciutto and Saute for about 2-3 minutes until the Butter and Prosciutto fat have covered the Onion and the Onion is turning slightly brown.
Add Parsley and Black Pepper.
Add already cooked and drained Spaghetti or Linguine to frying pan and Saute for 2 minutes. Turn heat off.
Add Egg and Milk mixture and toss in frying pan for one minute and serve.
“To one who has faith, no explanation is necessary. To one without faith, no explanation is possible.”
St. Thomas Aquinas.
Vongole e Funghi
½ Cube Sweet Cream Butter
2 Small Cans of Mushrooms (Funghi) Pieces and Stems, Drained
2 Tbls Chopped or Minced Garlic
2 Cans of Clams (Vongole), NOT drained
2 Tbls Parsley
Sour Cream
Melt Butter in large frying pan.
Add Mushrooms and Garlic and Saute for about 2-3 minutes (until Mushrooms are coated with Butter and no water is left on them).
Add Clams with the Juice and Saute 4-5 minutes (until juice is reduced and moderately thick).
Add Parsley and enough Sour Cream to thicken sauce.
Toss with Spaghetti or Linguine and serve.
“Preach the Gospel at all times; when necessary use words.”
St. Francis of Assisi.
Salsa Alla Putanesca
2 Tbls Olive Oil
2 Tbls Chopped or Minced Garlic
1 Tin of Anchovies wrapped around capers, in Olive Oil
1 Large can of Stewed or Diced Plum Tomatoes
½ Cup of Chopped Black Olives
½ Cup of Chopped Green Olives
1 Tbls Basil
1 Tbls Black Pepper
2 tsp Crushed Red Pepper
Dash or two of Tabasco Sauce
Romano Cheese
Add Olive Oil and Garlic in medium sauce pan, sauté for 2-3 minutes.
Chop Anchovies and add with capers and Olive Oil.
Add Tomatoes, Olives, Basil, Black Pepper, Red Pepper and Tabasco to taste.
Heat for 10-15 minutes on medium heat, stirring regularly.
Toss over Spaghetti.
Add Romano Cheese to taste.
“Time stays long enough for anyone who will use it.”
Leonardo da Vinci
You Are What you Eat: (so FEAST on the Scriptures)
Women's Conference class by Megan Wilchen
Scripture Study Tools:
Silverware (for feasting on the scriptures)
• Use a variety of approaches: (1) water skiing (quickly reading a large section of scripture can provide insights that reading a smaller section would never give you), (2) snorkeling (studying by topic and using footnotes is a good way to gain a deeper understanding of the scriptures), and (3) scuba diving (really delving into a scripture—when scuba diving you may only study one verse and its cross references, pull in quotes from prophets, etc.)
• Study all of the scriptures listed under a specific topic in the Index or Topical Guide
• Search for scriptural connections, patterns, and themes (see “A Reservoir of Living Water,” David A. Bednar, CES Fireside 4 Feb 2007)
• Liken the scriptures to you by looking for similarities to your circumstances
• Become a contemporary of the people in the scriptures—put yourself in their place and remember the ‘fear and trembling’ (see “One Step Enough,” John S. Tanner, BYU Devotional, June 30, 1992)
• Use the footnotes (and mark them!) and Bible Dictionary
• Record thoughts, feelings, and promptings in a scripture journal (and mark the corresponding scripture(s) so you remember and can refer back to your journal entry)
• Read a book of scripture from beginning to end while watching for (and marking) a particular gospel doctrine / theme as you go
• If you know a foreign language, consider reading the scriptures in that language
• Search the scriptures looking for an answer to a specific question
• Search the scriptures for questions the Lord asks us; then ponder your own response (see “Responding to the Lord’s Questions,” John S. Tanner, Ensign, April 2002)
• When you don’t have your scriptures, reflect on the scriptures you have memorized (e.g. the Articles of Faith and other scriptures)
• Use Institute and/or Seminary study manuals
• Study as if you are preparing to teach a class on the subject matter
• Find great talks about scripture study (and other topics) at http://speeches.byu.edu//
• Take advantage of the digital repository of articles and resources at lds.org
• Take more time to ponder and pray as part of your scripture study
• Select a specific topic or question to ponder
• Read just the footnotes of a chapter to get a sense for the themes (by looking at the topics referenced)
• Take opportunities to study the scriptures in the temple
• Search for doctrines and principles (choose a way to consistently mark them so you will recognize them easily as you read that section later)
Things to remember:
• Be consistent, even if you aren’t spending as much time as you’d like in the scriptures, spending any time at all in scripture study is better than waiting for when you have as much time as you’d like.
• Don’t expect a “hole-in-one” every time you study the scriptures. Powerful spiritual experiences are great, but if you expect them every time you open the scriptures you may become discouraged. Elder Whitney L. Clayton (of the Seventy) taught this principle in response to a question asked during a Stake Conference I attended a few years ago. He explained that things like prayer and scripture study are supposed to require effort and diligence. If the Lord handed us a miraculous, profound experience every time we prayed or studied, we would not grow.
• Play to your strengths. Certain methods of scripture study are going to be more beneficial to some than to others. We all learn in different ways; there is no “one-size-fits-all” when it comes to learning from the scriptures. Ask the Lord to help you find the methods that are most engaging and helpful to you, then pay attention as you study.
• Remember the law of accumulation. The answers we receive, especially to our most heartfelt questions, usually come “line upon line.” Elder Richard G. Scott explains, “Seldom will you receive a complete response all at once. It will come a piece at a time, in packets...As each piece is followed in faith, you will be led to other portions until you have the whole answer” (“Will Heavenly Father Always Answer My Prayers?” Ensign, February 2010). S. Michael Wilcox (an institute teacher) describes this process as the Lord waiting until “life has carved out a holding place in our hearts” for the answer. So be patient and watch for answer “packets.”
Megan also recommends the following addresses. These came up in discussion during her classes and she wanted to share them here as well. These are "links" so you should be able to click on the title and you will be connected from here.
Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, Lessons from Liberty Jail, CES Fireside, September 7, 2008.
John S. Tanner, One Step Enough, BYU Devotional, June 30, 1992.
S. Michael Wilcox, Fourth Watch (this talk is not available online in its entirety, this link is to an article summarizing the content of this and a few other talks given by Brother Wilcox).
Scripture Study Tools:
Silverware (for feasting on the scriptures)
• Use a variety of approaches: (1) water skiing (quickly reading a large section of scripture can provide insights that reading a smaller section would never give you), (2) snorkeling (studying by topic and using footnotes is a good way to gain a deeper understanding of the scriptures), and (3) scuba diving (really delving into a scripture—when scuba diving you may only study one verse and its cross references, pull in quotes from prophets, etc.)
• Study all of the scriptures listed under a specific topic in the Index or Topical Guide
• Search for scriptural connections, patterns, and themes (see “A Reservoir of Living Water,” David A. Bednar, CES Fireside 4 Feb 2007)
• Liken the scriptures to you by looking for similarities to your circumstances
• Become a contemporary of the people in the scriptures—put yourself in their place and remember the ‘fear and trembling’ (see “One Step Enough,” John S. Tanner, BYU Devotional, June 30, 1992)
• Use the footnotes (and mark them!) and Bible Dictionary
• Record thoughts, feelings, and promptings in a scripture journal (and mark the corresponding scripture(s) so you remember and can refer back to your journal entry)
• Read a book of scripture from beginning to end while watching for (and marking) a particular gospel doctrine / theme as you go
• If you know a foreign language, consider reading the scriptures in that language
• Search the scriptures looking for an answer to a specific question
• Search the scriptures for questions the Lord asks us; then ponder your own response (see “Responding to the Lord’s Questions,” John S. Tanner, Ensign, April 2002)
• When you don’t have your scriptures, reflect on the scriptures you have memorized (e.g. the Articles of Faith and other scriptures)
• Use Institute and/or Seminary study manuals
• Study as if you are preparing to teach a class on the subject matter
• Find great talks about scripture study (and other topics) at http://speeches.byu.edu//
• Take advantage of the digital repository of articles and resources at lds.org
• Take more time to ponder and pray as part of your scripture study
• Select a specific topic or question to ponder
• Read just the footnotes of a chapter to get a sense for the themes (by looking at the topics referenced)
• Take opportunities to study the scriptures in the temple
• Search for doctrines and principles (choose a way to consistently mark them so you will recognize them easily as you read that section later)
Things to remember:
• Be consistent, even if you aren’t spending as much time as you’d like in the scriptures, spending any time at all in scripture study is better than waiting for when you have as much time as you’d like.
• Don’t expect a “hole-in-one” every time you study the scriptures. Powerful spiritual experiences are great, but if you expect them every time you open the scriptures you may become discouraged. Elder Whitney L. Clayton (of the Seventy) taught this principle in response to a question asked during a Stake Conference I attended a few years ago. He explained that things like prayer and scripture study are supposed to require effort and diligence. If the Lord handed us a miraculous, profound experience every time we prayed or studied, we would not grow.
• Play to your strengths. Certain methods of scripture study are going to be more beneficial to some than to others. We all learn in different ways; there is no “one-size-fits-all” when it comes to learning from the scriptures. Ask the Lord to help you find the methods that are most engaging and helpful to you, then pay attention as you study.
• Remember the law of accumulation. The answers we receive, especially to our most heartfelt questions, usually come “line upon line.” Elder Richard G. Scott explains, “Seldom will you receive a complete response all at once. It will come a piece at a time, in packets...As each piece is followed in faith, you will be led to other portions until you have the whole answer” (“Will Heavenly Father Always Answer My Prayers?” Ensign, February 2010). S. Michael Wilcox (an institute teacher) describes this process as the Lord waiting until “life has carved out a holding place in our hearts” for the answer. So be patient and watch for answer “packets.”
Megan also recommends the following addresses. These came up in discussion during her classes and she wanted to share them here as well. These are "links" so you should be able to click on the title and you will be connected from here.
Elder Jeffrey R. Holland, Lessons from Liberty Jail, CES Fireside, September 7, 2008.
John S. Tanner, One Step Enough, BYU Devotional, June 30, 1992.
S. Michael Wilcox, Fourth Watch (this talk is not available online in its entirety, this link is to an article summarizing the content of this and a few other talks given by Brother Wilcox).
Classy Couture -- Women's Conference Class by Kerrie Warnick
Comfy casual- denim jeans
cut, color and length
blazer/sweater/cardigan
use of tank or halter under cardigan or blazer
belts- thick belt with jeans!
belts used outside of sweaters, over longer tops
make sure “the girls” are high enough up if wearing a belt on the outside**
shoes- use a heeled shoe to dress up an outfit
jewelry- go bold, especially if outfit uses very neutral colors or is very plain or conservative
scarves as accessories, not just for warmth
large purse
Dressy/business attire
pencil skirt in neutral
crisp white shirt-trendy flare with ruffles
blazer/sweater/cardigan with pop of color
pieces of suit don’t need to match in color or texture
black heels
nylons/no nylons
The Basics- What every closet should have
Jeans (or denim)
Jeans are what you garden in, denim being the classy addition to your lower half.
Cut-should not cover navel, yet not too low- “plumber’s crack”
Color- darker denim creates that long and lean look. Not too worn.
Length- you should almost be able to step on the back hem.
Fit- they should fit at waist and hip and then flow through the end
Hard to fit in jeans?? Many companies offer custom fitting. Try fitting again.
Jeans should be borderline too tight when in the dressing room. They will stretch.
mid-rise jean—jeans that come up to somewhere right in between your belly button and
your hip—at around a 9" rise (that's the distance between the crotch and the waistband).
Suit
Either a pair of slacks or skirt with matching jacket or blazer.
Skirts and slacks- NO PLEATS
Neutral colors include gray, black, brown, tan
A belted trench- neutral color
Black 2 inch pump or boot
Long sleeved white button down, collared shirt
LBD- AKA “The Little Black Dress”. Can be tailored or cotton casual.
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Accessories
Accessories MAKE THE OUTFIT. They don’t come in “sizes”. They pull attention away from figure flaws.
necklaces- short and chunky vs. long and dangly
rings, bracelets, earrings
scarves
sunglasses
belts
purses
shoes
Alterations and customizations
Make a friend of a great alterations specialist. It is nearly impossible to buy a flattering, tailored suit right off the rack. It is a minor expense that will yield huge results.
Look for hem and seam allowances on clothing if you plan on buying something to have it
altered.
Clothing care
Wash all denim in cold water, turned inside out, with darks-specific detergent.
DON’T DRY DENIM!
Hand wash sweaters (if not dry cleaned) and lay flat to dry.
Dry clean those items that require it. Don’t go at it yourself.
Keep a simple shoe shine kit handy.
Wash all darks together (excluding denim) in cold water and special detergent.
Fold sweaters, don’t hang.
Use wooden or wide hangers for suit coats. ELIMINATE ALL WIRE HANGERS
Organization
Evaluate the items in your closet. Rules:
If you haven't worn it in over a year, it needs to go.
If you wore something when you were pregnant AND YOU’RE NOT NOW, either get rid of it or put it in the “prego pile” to possibly wear WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT!
If you’ve lost weight in the last little while, get rid of the old “fat” clothes.
Organize shoes on shoe racks or in boxes. If you choose clear storage boxes, remember to allow for air circulation. Leather shoes breathe and need to not be sealed up. Take pictures and attach to outer side of box for easy accessibility.
Remove clothing from dry cleaning bags and garment bags. Visibility is key in knowing what you have!
Separate blouses, skirts, sweaters, slacks, jackets in your closet.
Undergarments
A great fitting bra is absolutely key!! Go get fit if you haven’t been lately.
Try a different store from where you normally buy your bras.
A bra should last you about a year before elastic is over-stretched and spandex is worn out.
A bra fits when you have all breast tissue inside cup (gather it from the bottom and arm pit
areas).
SPANX- not your mama’s girdle. Use them under all dresses and skirts. Use under slacks
and under jeans if desired. Many kinds:! go generic!
For those panty wear-ers: find those panties that eliminate most of a panty line.
Leg-wear- the longer the hemline, the sheer-er the tight. Shorter hemline requires a more
opaque tight, it requires more coverage. A more opaque tight with a longer hemline
makes the calves and ankles look thicker.
Knock-off designs and stores that carry them
Many designers have caught on that not everybody can afford the pricy stuff they make, many of them have created the bargain level clothes.
Target, Kohl’s, Wal-Mart, Fred Meyers carry great copy-cat or knock-off versions of hip and
trendy styles.
Go into stores that you haven’t gone into for a while. You may be surprised!
Denim Glossary
Rise: The length between the waistband and the inseam. High-rise sits 1/2 inch above
your navel, minimizes curves, and holds in your tummy. Mid-rise sits at your navel or 1
inch below and enhances curves in your hip. Low-rise sits 2 inches below your navel
and flattens a larger bottom.
Inseam: Measurement of the inside of your leg, from the middle of the crotch to the
bottom of your jeans.
Band: Waistband of the jeans. Also, the measurement of your waist.
Bootcut: Widely known as the favorite (and most flattering) cut for most women,
bootcut jeans give your legs a longer, slimmer appearance, due to the slightly wider cut
below the knee. Generally fit close to the body.
Flared: Modern version of the bell-bottom; generally fitted through the hip, knee, and
thigh area, then cut wide below the knee.
Classic Five-Pocket: Skims the hip and thigh; slightly tapered with a roomy cut in the
seat to allow easy movement.
Loose: Most comfortable cut; extremely roomy in the hip, seat, and thigh area.
Straight: Cut the same width from hip-to-hem, best for toning down curves in the hip
area. Generally not fitted, but body skimming.
Tapered: The ankle is cut very slim, which creates the illusion of smooth curves in the
hip area.
Relaxed: Fit with the most room in the seat area, typically with lower-rise waist.
Wash: The general color and texture of your jeans. Dyes, enzymes and stones are
used to achieve desired look.
Whiskers: Bleached marks and crease lines across the hip and knee -- looks similar to
cat whiskers.
Distressed: Jeans have a worn-in appearance; holes and fraying most common.
Tint: Jeans are dipped into diluted dye of various colors; gold and brown are popular
denim tints.
Sand-Blasted: Denim is washed with sand to fade material into a lighter shade.
Corded: Cross between denim and corduroy pants.
Frayed: Edges are loose strings of denim fabric, generally around the waist and ankle.
Size Charts
Generally, American jeans will fit according to these standards:
Size Abbreviation Full Name
00/2 XS Extra Small
4/6 S Small
8/10 M Medium
12/14 L Large
16/18 XL Extra Large
Size Waist Measurement (in inches)
0 24
2 25
4 26
6 27
8 28
10 29
12 30
14 31
16 32
18 33
Fashion Tid-bits:
Dress the largest part of you first, otherwise you look like you’re squeezing into things. By dressing the hardest part, everything else can be altered.
Just because you fit into something doesn’t mean you should.
An A-line skirt needs a more fitted top.
Metallics are neutrals.
Use your curves to your advantage.
INVEST IN A FULL-LENGTH MIRROR.
Spend more money on a few great pieces than lots of trendy pieces.
Cropping a sweater or jacket with a large chest makes you look really heavy.
Clothes that fit actually make you look smaller.
Use clothing to shape your body.
You cannot hide curves, otherwise you look a lot bigger than you are.
When you look good, you want to keep looking good.
More and more people can get away with wearing a skinny jean-when done right.
Jeans: a tapered leg means that the hem is narrower than the knee, creating width up top.
Flap pockets and pockets with a lot of embelishments add weight and emphasis to butt
Since wearing clothes that are too small or too big can make you look up to 10 lbs heavier, do
the work to find the right jeans. By wearing jeans that fit your unique shape you ensure that
you’re showing off only your best attributes.
Resources:
Websites I love...
! zappos.com -fast, overnight delivery on most shoes, clothing, accessories.
! overstock.com (great for MANY of life’s must-haves!)
! piperlime.com - A GAP company, great for shoes. Low, flat rate shipping.
! garnethill.com- classic, well-made clothing, shoes, accessories
! bananarepublic.com - great selection of jewelry
! indicustom.com- a great place to design your own custom jeans
! amazon.com- great deals on clothing and shoes
! shopstyle.com- uses your search to recommend websites to purchase
! us.longtallsally.com- website for tall ladies
Style references:
“Style on a Shoestring” by Andy Paige
“The Science of Sexy” by Bradley Bayou
In Style’s “The New Secrets of Style”!
Society
October 1971 Ensign “Fads and Faith” - By Peggy Hawkins
cut, color and length
blazer/sweater/cardigan
use of tank or halter under cardigan or blazer
belts- thick belt with jeans!
belts used outside of sweaters, over longer tops
make sure “the girls” are high enough up if wearing a belt on the outside**
shoes- use a heeled shoe to dress up an outfit
jewelry- go bold, especially if outfit uses very neutral colors or is very plain or conservative
scarves as accessories, not just for warmth
large purse
Dressy/business attire
pencil skirt in neutral
crisp white shirt-trendy flare with ruffles
blazer/sweater/cardigan with pop of color
pieces of suit don’t need to match in color or texture
black heels
nylons/no nylons
The Basics- What every closet should have
Jeans (or denim)
Jeans are what you garden in, denim being the classy addition to your lower half.
Cut-should not cover navel, yet not too low- “plumber’s crack”
Color- darker denim creates that long and lean look. Not too worn.
Length- you should almost be able to step on the back hem.
Fit- they should fit at waist and hip and then flow through the end
Hard to fit in jeans?? Many companies offer custom fitting. Try fitting again.
Jeans should be borderline too tight when in the dressing room. They will stretch.
mid-rise jean—jeans that come up to somewhere right in between your belly button and
your hip—at around a 9" rise (that's the distance between the crotch and the waistband).
Suit
Either a pair of slacks or skirt with matching jacket or blazer.
Skirts and slacks- NO PLEATS
Neutral colors include gray, black, brown, tan
A belted trench- neutral color
Black 2 inch pump or boot
Long sleeved white button down, collared shirt
LBD- AKA “The Little Black Dress”. Can be tailored or cotton casual.
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Accessories
Accessories MAKE THE OUTFIT. They don’t come in “sizes”. They pull attention away from figure flaws.
necklaces- short and chunky vs. long and dangly
rings, bracelets, earrings
scarves
sunglasses
belts
purses
shoes
Alterations and customizations
Make a friend of a great alterations specialist. It is nearly impossible to buy a flattering, tailored suit right off the rack. It is a minor expense that will yield huge results.
Look for hem and seam allowances on clothing if you plan on buying something to have it
altered.
Clothing care
Wash all denim in cold water, turned inside out, with darks-specific detergent.
DON’T DRY DENIM!
Hand wash sweaters (if not dry cleaned) and lay flat to dry.
Dry clean those items that require it. Don’t go at it yourself.
Keep a simple shoe shine kit handy.
Wash all darks together (excluding denim) in cold water and special detergent.
Fold sweaters, don’t hang.
Use wooden or wide hangers for suit coats. ELIMINATE ALL WIRE HANGERS
Organization
Evaluate the items in your closet. Rules:
If you haven't worn it in over a year, it needs to go.
If you wore something when you were pregnant AND YOU’RE NOT NOW, either get rid of it or put it in the “prego pile” to possibly wear WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT!
If you’ve lost weight in the last little while, get rid of the old “fat” clothes.
Organize shoes on shoe racks or in boxes. If you choose clear storage boxes, remember to allow for air circulation. Leather shoes breathe and need to not be sealed up. Take pictures and attach to outer side of box for easy accessibility.
Remove clothing from dry cleaning bags and garment bags. Visibility is key in knowing what you have!
Separate blouses, skirts, sweaters, slacks, jackets in your closet.
Undergarments
A great fitting bra is absolutely key!! Go get fit if you haven’t been lately.
Try a different store from where you normally buy your bras.
A bra should last you about a year before elastic is over-stretched and spandex is worn out.
A bra fits when you have all breast tissue inside cup (gather it from the bottom and arm pit
areas).
SPANX- not your mama’s girdle. Use them under all dresses and skirts. Use under slacks
and under jeans if desired. Many kinds:! go generic!
For those panty wear-ers: find those panties that eliminate most of a panty line.
Leg-wear- the longer the hemline, the sheer-er the tight. Shorter hemline requires a more
opaque tight, it requires more coverage. A more opaque tight with a longer hemline
makes the calves and ankles look thicker.
Knock-off designs and stores that carry them
Many designers have caught on that not everybody can afford the pricy stuff they make, many of them have created the bargain level clothes.
Target, Kohl’s, Wal-Mart, Fred Meyers carry great copy-cat or knock-off versions of hip and
trendy styles.
Go into stores that you haven’t gone into for a while. You may be surprised!
Denim Glossary
Rise: The length between the waistband and the inseam. High-rise sits 1/2 inch above
your navel, minimizes curves, and holds in your tummy. Mid-rise sits at your navel or 1
inch below and enhances curves in your hip. Low-rise sits 2 inches below your navel
and flattens a larger bottom.
Inseam: Measurement of the inside of your leg, from the middle of the crotch to the
bottom of your jeans.
Band: Waistband of the jeans. Also, the measurement of your waist.
Bootcut: Widely known as the favorite (and most flattering) cut for most women,
bootcut jeans give your legs a longer, slimmer appearance, due to the slightly wider cut
below the knee. Generally fit close to the body.
Flared: Modern version of the bell-bottom; generally fitted through the hip, knee, and
thigh area, then cut wide below the knee.
Classic Five-Pocket: Skims the hip and thigh; slightly tapered with a roomy cut in the
seat to allow easy movement.
Loose: Most comfortable cut; extremely roomy in the hip, seat, and thigh area.
Straight: Cut the same width from hip-to-hem, best for toning down curves in the hip
area. Generally not fitted, but body skimming.
Tapered: The ankle is cut very slim, which creates the illusion of smooth curves in the
hip area.
Relaxed: Fit with the most room in the seat area, typically with lower-rise waist.
Wash: The general color and texture of your jeans. Dyes, enzymes and stones are
used to achieve desired look.
Whiskers: Bleached marks and crease lines across the hip and knee -- looks similar to
cat whiskers.
Distressed: Jeans have a worn-in appearance; holes and fraying most common.
Tint: Jeans are dipped into diluted dye of various colors; gold and brown are popular
denim tints.
Sand-Blasted: Denim is washed with sand to fade material into a lighter shade.
Corded: Cross between denim and corduroy pants.
Frayed: Edges are loose strings of denim fabric, generally around the waist and ankle.
Size Charts
Generally, American jeans will fit according to these standards:
Size Abbreviation Full Name
00/2 XS Extra Small
4/6 S Small
8/10 M Medium
12/14 L Large
16/18 XL Extra Large
Size Waist Measurement (in inches)
0 24
2 25
4 26
6 27
8 28
10 29
12 30
14 31
16 32
18 33
Fashion Tid-bits:
Dress the largest part of you first, otherwise you look like you’re squeezing into things. By dressing the hardest part, everything else can be altered.
Just because you fit into something doesn’t mean you should.
An A-line skirt needs a more fitted top.
Metallics are neutrals.
Use your curves to your advantage.
INVEST IN A FULL-LENGTH MIRROR.
Spend more money on a few great pieces than lots of trendy pieces.
Cropping a sweater or jacket with a large chest makes you look really heavy.
Clothes that fit actually make you look smaller.
Use clothing to shape your body.
You cannot hide curves, otherwise you look a lot bigger than you are.
When you look good, you want to keep looking good.
More and more people can get away with wearing a skinny jean-when done right.
Jeans: a tapered leg means that the hem is narrower than the knee, creating width up top.
Flap pockets and pockets with a lot of embelishments add weight and emphasis to butt
Since wearing clothes that are too small or too big can make you look up to 10 lbs heavier, do
the work to find the right jeans. By wearing jeans that fit your unique shape you ensure that
you’re showing off only your best attributes.
Resources:
Websites I love...
! zappos.com -fast, overnight delivery on most shoes, clothing, accessories.
! overstock.com (great for MANY of life’s must-haves!)
! piperlime.com - A GAP company, great for shoes. Low, flat rate shipping.
! garnethill.com- classic, well-made clothing, shoes, accessories
! bananarepublic.com - great selection of jewelry
! indicustom.com- a great place to design your own custom jeans
! amazon.com- great deals on clothing and shoes
! shopstyle.com- uses your search to recommend websites to purchase
! us.longtallsally.com- website for tall ladies
Style references:
“Style on a Shoestring” by Andy Paige
“The Science of Sexy” by Bradley Bayou
In Style’s “The New Secrets of Style”!
Society
October 1971 Ensign “Fads and Faith” - By Peggy Hawkins
Saturday, January 21, 2012
2012 Women's Conference--Saturday Workshops
Below you will find a grid schedule for Saturday's Women's Conference Workshops.
If you place your curser on the link below (in blue and underlined) and click when it turns white, it will take you to a seperate site. Wait for the document to download and then you can scroll down to view the grid full page size, and look to the right for the button marked "print" if you want a paper copy. More detailed information about each class will be provided in the program when you arrive. We can't wait to see you!!
If you place your curser on the link below (in blue and underlined) and click when it turns white, it will take you to a seperate site. Wait for the document to download and then you can scroll down to view the grid full page size, and look to the right for the button marked "print" if you want a paper copy. More detailed information about each class will be provided in the program when you arrive. We can't wait to see you!!
Monday, January 9, 2012
Lake Oswego Stake Women's Conference 2012--January 27th & 28th
Friday Night Fun (Jan 27th, 7pm to 9pm)
For all Relief Society Sisters, with a special invitation to bring your Achievement Day Girls (8 yrs & up) and all Young Women.
Please invite friends and neighbors to join us for fun and instruction.
*Yoga, Zumba & More
*Stamping Nail Art (you're gonna love this!)
*Felt Flower Craft
*Class: Do something new with your hair
*Trek Service Project
*Mini Concert
*Trifle Bar Dessert
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